Who's Judging Me Now?

We have all experienced being judged by someone else. I'm not talking about judging contests. I'm talking about someone having an incorrect perception of you and holding on to that judgement. People will form an opinion of you based on what they see or hear. If you're tall, short, skinny, overweight, disabled, tattooed, from another country, etc., judgements are made.

How often do you judge people? Do you make judgements out of habit? Have you ever wondered whether you've judged someone incorrectly or unfairly?

We see this happen in schools all the time. The "cool" kids judge kids they consider "nerds". Kids are judged on how they dress, talk and act. They are judged based on their grades. Kids are also judged unfairly by their parents, siblings, friends and teachers.

Judging carries over into adulthood. You're told not to compare yourself to others. When you become employed, judgements and comparisons are made as to how you "stack up" against your peers.

Have you ever considered the impact your judgements can make on other individuals? Our words can lift someone up or tear someone down. Our words can create chaos in our lives as well as the lives of others. We sometimes take these judgements even further by "sharing" our judgements with others without making any attempts to determine whether our judgements are valid. We spread rumors or gossip oftentimes not concerning ourselves with any damage we may inflict. Imagine being the recipient of and hearing untrue comments that were made about you.

Isn't it time that we make a conscious effort to overcome being judgmental? Decide to only speak words that have a positive impact. Refuse to believe any of the negative baloney that we hear. Stop engaging in rumors and/or gossip. Remember, those individuals bringing you gossip and rumors about others are also sharing rumors and gossip about you to others.

When you decide to not engage in destructive judgements, you begin to see changes in how you treat people. People's judgements of you change. What others think of you no longer carries any weight. Negative comments "roll off" your back. You have less stress in your life. So, go ahead and fire your internal judge. Become a happier person. These steps will move you in the direction of having a better life.