Have you ever said something that you wish you could retract? Have you ever wondered how you come up with some of the things you say? It's happened to all of us.
What we say with our mouths can determine whether we have a good day or whether we ruin someone's day. I've certainly been there and done that. I can see from facial reactions whether I encouraged someone or whether my comment was hurtful. And have you ever interacted with someone whose ultimate goal is to be mean spirited?
Why do we say some of the things we say? Let's consider the times when our comments are hurtful. Oftentimes, when we are hurt we in turn want to hurt someone. There could be anger, resentment and unforgiveness for a past incident that is still lingering in our heart. If we haven't dealt with the issue, we may be in revenge mode.
Feelings of envy and jealousy can cause us to gossip, to make untrue comments or exaggerate. These feelings will also cause us to believe the negative gossip that we hear about others.
At times, we have been "flattered" as a means of manipulation. What is behind the "nice" words being directed towards us? Pay attention and learn how to distinguish the sincerity of what is being said.
Sometimes we are trying to be nice, however, our comment comes out wrong (i.e. what did you do to your hair?).
We can control what comes out of our mouth. Turn the negatives into positives. Apologize if you feel your comment(s) were hurtful. Don't deceive yourself. Strive to be gracious with your words and you will have a happy heart.
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