Weakness versus Strength

We all have character traits that are developed during our childhood. These traits can be perceived as possible strengths and or weaknesses dependent on the situation. For example, someone who raises their voice and yells may think that by doing so, the receiver of the "rant" will feel intimidated into submitting to the requests of the yeller. Another way of looking at the yeller's conduct could be that they are frightened to the degree where they have lost control.

When someone stands their ground or defends their position on a decision or topic, the perceived inability to agree with another can be viewed as someone being stubborn or difficult. This characterization (when done by a peer or supervisor) could be damaging during a review session. In reality, all character traits can have a pro and con associated with the perception.

There are individuals that will prey on what they perceive is a weakness and use it to their benefit. They will tell anyone who will listen why you can't be depended on, why you don't have what it takes to be promoted, etc. Someone being viewed as being quiet may be misdiagnosed as being mousy. The individual may be quietly analyzing the situation before they offer an opinion. Or maybe there is nothing else to contribute.

The issue becomes that of turning what is a perceived weakness into a strength. That may entail changing someone's perception. Just because someone has the wrong viewpoint does not mean that they are correct. Sometimes changing one's perception of you is as easy as rephrasing what was said. You can also ask clarifying questions.

Our identity is not with others or what they think of us. We don't need the approval of others. We can, however, decide to take a look at any feedback provided by someone we trust or by someone with no ulterior motives. If you determine that there is a weakness, then you can make any required changes. Have faith in your abilities. Life is better when you focus on the positives.