Throw Me A Rope (I'm Drowning Here)

Have you ever had one of those days where nothing was going right and you felt as though you were sinking in quicksand? Each step taken is heavy, as though weighted down. You just can't seem to overcome your challenges. Your heart is heavy with dread at the thought of having to face another fear or challenge. You say to yourself, that there must be something better around the corner.

You're already beating yourself up. Then, here comes your well-meaning "friends or family" ready to tell you what you did wrong. We already know that we messed up. Do we really need someone else's input? It get's so tiresome listening to what people think you should be, say and or do. People always seem to think that they know more than you. Have they been in your shoes?

Don't get me wrong. At times we're offered solid advice. However, more often than not, the advice from "friends and family" impacts us as though we're being kicked when we're down. Instead of telling us what we've done wrong help us focus on what's been done right.

So, how does one move from sinking in sand to solid ground? Soul-searching, being completely honest with yourself, acknowledging the behaviors, beliefs or attitudes and having a willingness to make changes are all critical steps one must take.

We all have individuals that we trust. There is no doubt that these individuals make good sounding boards and have our best interests at heart. When you've completed your assessment of the situation, there may be times that you want a second opinion. It's okay to ask for assistance from someone you trust. However, be clear with why you're asking for help. Are you just looking for someone to agree with you? The feedback provided should be encouraging, offer insight and options for a way out of your situation.

So, be willing to accept the "rope" that's being extended when the situation warrants it. If, however, you choose not to heed the advice from someone you trust eventually you will find the rope withdrawn and you may find that you will continue to drown in the mire of your challenging situations.