I enjoy doing things for people. Sometimes I'm asked for assistance, other times I do things just because. I'm not talking about big elaborate gestures. I'm talking about little things. For example, when you see someone feeling sad, you can give them a card that will cheer them up. Or maybe at a work potluck, fixing a plate for someone who is stuck in a meeting. I find that doing things anonymously especially enjoyable. It's a good feeling to uplift someone without expecting a thank you in return.
There are, however, instances where you require assistance and the person you turn to wants to know how helping you will benefit them. There's a sense of entitlement. What a sad reality knowing that the neighborly attitude of past generations has not necessarily been passed down generationally. Do you open doors for people? When you are in line at the grocery store and your cart is full, do you allow the person behind you with 3-4 items go before you? Fortunately, there are still scenarios where people help out in times of need (i.e. during a crisis, fixing a tire, when someone is sick, etc.).
Often times, people will do things for others and then brag about what they've done. Why is it important that others know that you helped someone? Are you doing nice things just to get noticed or to boost your ego? Having an ulterior motive for doing things depicts an insecure character trait. You're not fooling anyone hiding behind the mask of deception. What you try to hide is very easily seen by others.
The help you provide others is a gift and should be offered unconditionally. Knowing that you encouraged someone, helped them out of a tough situation or just made them smile should be thanks enough.
What are your reasons for helping others?
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