We Are Woman

Women come in all shapes, sizes, nationalities, and backgrounds. We're raised differently. We have different educational backgrounds, different viewpoints, yet we are constantly grouped together for comparison. Society tells us how we should look, eat, dress and what type of career we should have in order to be successful.

There's a lot to being a woman. From T-shirts and sweat pants some of us migrate to skinny jeans. It's all about our choice of comfort clothes. Our comfort clothes could contribute to our having a relaxed demeanor. At times we can be modest, shy, nurturing, loving, complicated or we can "defend our turf" when the need arises. There are many words to describe women; we can't be placed in a one-word fits all category. Can you imagine how boring it would be if all women were the same? I like that we are all different. That means that we can learn much about and from each other.

We're not perfect daughters, siblings or wives so, we shouldn't be expected to act alike. We make mistakes. We have different skills and successes. God created us to be unique in our own way. We share our hurts and our happiness with those in our sisterhood. It's important that we lift each other up. We each have gone through trials and tribulations. We never know when or how the lessons that we learned can benefit others.  We can, however, use these lessons to motivate and encourage someone in our sisterhood.

We each have different ideas of success. Whether we choose to pursue corporate America, own our own business, be a caregiver or a stay at home mom, we can be successful. Do not define your success by comparing your self to someone else. The criteria may be different. What works for one person may not work for you. Being successful should make you happy, not stress you out. Being successful is doing what you enjoy doing and feeling good about what you are doing.

We can all be wonder women. However, in order to do that, we must understand that we are not in this alone. We need assistance from others. We have to know when to ask for help and when to provide help. When we offer guidance, it's not about forcing our thoughts and ideas on another. It's stepping back and helping them to determine what is best for them. Offering them your shoulder as a sounding board instead of making the decision for them will provide them with the encouragement that they can resolve their issues. I'm not suggesting that advice not be offered if requested. I'm suggesting that if they talk through their issues, it ultimately leads them to a decision.

Above all, as women don't belittle or curse other women. Be of good character. You don't have to be perfect to be a wonder woman. Just be you.