Women and Sisterhood

As little girls in our youth, we form many different types of friendships. We have acquaintances, friends, BF's BFF's. As we become women, we move into the ultimate friendship known as sisterhood. Sisterhood can be defined as the solidarity of women based on shared conditions, experiences, or concerns; a sisterly relationship.

As we mature, our friendships move from friends to best friends to sisterhood, which is the cream of the crop. Best friends can be replaced, we can lose contact or we can close the door to the relationship altogether. Sisterhood is forever. It's more than the youthful BFF. As we become women our criteria for friendships change. Although we still tend to categorize some of our friendships, sisterhood is reserved for those we respect; those that are on the same playing field as our self. Sisterhood requires the utmost trust, dedication, love and confidence in another person. Developing a sisterhood takes time to nurture and grow. Unfortunately, at times, we can lose sight of what sisterhood is all about.

How does one enter into sisterhood with another? First, you have to define and understand what sisterhood means. You want to ensure that as you enter into sisterhood, all parties involved hold the same understanding and commitment. You want to ensure that you do not harbor any unresolved issues in your heart. If you engage in name-calling, cattiness and gossip, you must ask yourself if you are really interested in having a sisterhood relationship. Rid yourself of any judgmental attitudes. It's easier to focus on someone else's negativity than to admit to your own. Let go of any competition you may feel. Stop any comparisons you make between your self and others. You can't have a meaningful sisterhood while dealing with limitations or insecurities.

Women who enter sisterhood, make no comparisons with others; there are no jealousies or covetousness. Women who are confident are truly happy for those in their sisterhood and their successes. You laugh with them and cry with them. You encourage them.

Having a sisterhood means there is respect between the "sisters". The bond is as sacred as that of a respected bond with a family member.

How do you define your friendships with women? Do you have a sisterhood or are you still in the production mode? Embrace sisterhood by being the ultimate friend. Be a good woman. Honor your word and commitments. That's the only way to having a true sisterhood.