Detoxing

Detoxing is not pleasant. The word itself makes me cringe. Throughout our lives we fill ourselves up with things that cause us stress, heartache, anger, disappointment, false beliefs, etc. We are then faced with the challenge of making corrections; of detoxing our lives.

In order to begin your detox, you have to take a look at what is concerning you. Are you feeling blocked by choices you've made? Are you so overwhelmed with options that you just want to hide under the covers?

One of the first detox steps to take is to acknowledge where or what needs changing. Each of us were raised with beliefs passed down from generation to generation. We also have beliefs passed on to us from teachers, bosses and friends (to name a few). As we get older, we may begin to question our belief system. How do we rid ourselves of false beliefs, false ideas and false concepts?

Having the desire to make changes is another step. Making changes won't always be easy. There will be roadblocks and challenges to face. Doubt will rear its ugly head causing us to question whether making any changes is worth the effort. What is stopping you from letting go of things that you continue to hold on to? Take action by getting rid of anything that serves no purpose or causes you to cease moving forward.

As you go through your detox, there will be both good and bad days. If you feel yourself wanting to give up, focus on the goal of a new you. If you slip and get off track, that's ok. Get back on board. The difference will be in whether you continue with your detox or revert back to your old habits/ways.

You can't complete your cleanse if you disregard the positive steps you've taken. Continue to unclog your mind. Free yourself of any limitations. Detoxing is a process that you will continue throughout your life.  The question is: How often do you really want to repeat the process?

New Beginnings: A Fresh Start

My mom was married to my dad for 63-years. She never learned to drive and was dependent on my dad to “get around”. Since my dad's passing, my mom has been challenged to become more independent. She is now getting around by bus and is seeing different areas of her city that she hadn’t seen before. Mom is beginning to enjoy life again, one day at a time.

Is it time for you to make a fresh start? We all get a "feeling" deep inside of us that indicates when things aren't right. Maybe there are changes in our life that are overdue, however, we don't know where to start. It is absolutely amazing what can be accomplished by being open to learning new things and getting rid of any limitations.

Making a fresh start may require that we detox our life. Life will kick our butts, block our minds and even turn us upside down to get our attention. Don't get weighed down. Turn things around by de-cluttering your life. Make space for new things. Free your mind of self-limiting thoughts and behaviors. Be receptive to new things. 

Tomorrow provides us with opportunities to slow down and re-map our busy lives. We will encounter many crossroads that will lead us to different challenges. We can avoid many pot-holes by following our heart as it leads us through life's journey. 

You've got the green light to move forward. How will you handle the second chances that are showing up in your life?   

Hitting The Escape Key (A State of Confusion)

There are times in our lives that we just want to remain under the covers and hide. We want to run away, escape, take a break. 

Have you ever been unclear as to what to do? Have you been afraid to make changes in your life because you’re comfortable just leaving things as is? Life is full of challenges. The decisions we make are important. We want to ensure that our decisions are sound, made from the heart and not ruled by our emotions.

Decisions are typically made based on our belief system or what we believe to be true.  As young adults, our beliefs are taught to us and passed down to us from family (generation to generation). Teachers can also influence our beliefs. How do you differentiate between false and true beliefs?

Many false beliefs keep us in a state of confusion. Breaking down those false beliefs can be challenging in that we have to: 

* acknowledge the source of the false belief 

* decide whether we want to change that false belief 

* then take the appropriate action to change and/or remove that false belief.

What will holding on to false beliefs do for us? How will our lives be impacted? We will encounter strife, unhappiness, flawed decision making abilities, etc. Is that how you want to go through life? 

Breaking the binds can be so freeing. Take the necessary steps towards getting rid of “negativity” in your life. Come out from under the covers. Start your deliverance by ending your state of confusion. This will put you on the path of living a passionate life. 

Window Shopping: Deciding Your Future

At times we all window shop when it comes to deciding our future. Do you know what you want out of life, a career or a job?  There are so many options available to each of us. The challenge is to determine what gets you excited.

Are you pursuing your dream(s) or are you window shopping, trying on different careers and/or jobs to see what fits? When you enter the "store of life" there are many paths or aisles that you can walk down. Each aisle is filled with numerous options. Do you want to travel; go to college; become an entrepreneur; etc.? If you don't know exactly what you are looking for you might end up with a defect, doing something that was not meant to be.

When we window shop, we're just looking. We're not willing to make a commitment because we are unsure of our decision(s). What if we turn down the wrong aisle? Do we take the first opportunity that presents itself even though it's not the right fit or, do we wait for a "sure thing"?

Knowing what you want gives you the confidence to focus on what's important. Being focused allows you to stay on track. Bypass any unnecessary aisles or roadblocks that might lead to a dead end. Don't waste time shopping for things you don't want.

Recall as a child things that made you happy; things that you would enjoy doing over and over again and carried over into your teens/adulthood. Make a list of the things that you are passionate about.  Prioritize your list. Focus on the top 2-3 prioritized items. Develop an action plan to ensure that with a solid commitment, you can attain your dreams.

Be happy doing what you enjoy. Life is too short to live life with a window shopping mentality.

As Useless as The G in Lasagna

There are so many things in life that (for many) serve no purpose. What do you do with useless "stuff" (advice, thoughts, etc.)?

Some funny and/or useless things I've heard of or encountered:
* people telling you to be yourself and then being judged by those same people.
* why play a lullaby for someone who can't sleep?
* putting a homeless person on house arrest.
* letting your past dictate how to live your future.
* taking advice from people who can't fix their own lives.
* worrying about things you can't control.
* buying liquor, getting drunk & then vomiting. You can get the same effect for free by sticking your finger down your throat.
* getting mad @ a company's automated telephone computer (when you can't get to the operator or the right option).
* always being angry.

We've all faced illogical, unsolicited advice (usually from people who mean well). Unfortunately, not all advice is pertinent. We know our situation best. At times, when we have to make critical or swift decisions, it's best not to let our emotions take over. We all have imperfections. We all have room to grow. There are lessons to be learned.

One way to thwart getting unsolicited and or bad advice is to limit (or stop) the amount of information you share with others. Don't waste your energy on things that don't have a positive impact on your life. Take responsibility for your own life. When you do, the negatives will roll right off of you, becoming as useless as the "g" in lasagna.

No One Likes To Be "Should" On

Do you enjoy being told what to do? You should do this, you shouldn't do that. Why do people feel it's their "right" to determine how we want to live our lives?

As a child, parents and teachers offer guidance as to how decisions are made. The key seems to be on the approach that is taken. Telling someone what they "better do" or "should/shouldn't do" is not always received or seen in a positive light. What emotions do you encounter when you are told what you better do? Do you want to follow what you're being instructed to do or do you ignore the individual?

We all have expectations of ourselves and of others. When expectations aren't met it results in disappointment. We wonder about the need others have to manage or control our actions (especially if these individuals have difficulty managing their own lives).

Those of us wearing the "you better" or "you should" hats may want to consider how we phrase our comments/advise. If the true intent is to help the individual, then a "scolding" approach is not appropriate.  

Consider your reaction when people tell you what you should or shouldn't do. Do you feel as if you're being perceived as not being capable of making sound decisions? Don't allow others to dictate who you are or what your capabilities are. Recognize that the advice being given to you may have nothing to do with you or your situation.

The bottom line is that no one likes to be "should on". Glean what you can from the advice being offered. If there's value to the advice, accept it and take the appropriate action. If there is no value, ignore the advice and move on.  

Don't Label Me

Sticks and stones can break my bones but words will never hurt me. I remember reciting that as a child whenever a playmate would call me names. Growing up and being labeled negatively is hurtful. No one likes to be the recipient of negative comments.

Throughout our lives we are "labeled" by well meaning individuals. The labels given to us by parents, siblings, friends, teachers, bosses, etc., contribute to the inner dialog we have with ourself. You're too skinny, overweight, too short, too tall, not smart enough, you don't have what it takes, etc.

What happens when you begin to believe and internalize these labels? When you start supporting the labels, you make them your "truths". You carry these truths with you until you decide differently.

Walt Disney was told as a teen that he wasn't creative and had no imagination. He ignored the comments. When he got older, he created Disneyworld and Disneyland. Lucille Ball was told that she had no acting skills. She ignored the comments and ended up becoming a successful comedienne and star of the hit TV show, I love Lucy.

Don't buy into the "baloney" that others will sling your way. You are not how others may perceive you. Know your own value by discovering what's in you. Get rid of negative chatter by keeping your inner chatter positive. That is the only way to peel off the labels that have stuck to you.